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爱的语言(之四)

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爱的语言多种多样。前面,我提到过Dr. Gary Chapman关于爱的语言的三种表达方式:

  • 肯定赞赏的话语 —— Words of Affirmation
  • 共享高品质时光 —— Quality Time
  • 赠送和接收礼物 —— Receiving Gifts

 

今天,谈谈《爱的语言》的第四种表达方式:

  • 效力行动 —— Acts of Service

 

如果你不善辞令,不喜欢甜言蜜语,那就尝试用行动传达你的爱意。

 

做一桌可口的饭菜,做做家里的卫生,倒掉垃圾,洗车修车,剪草修树,遛狗换猫屎盆,更换金鱼缸里的陈水,等等,这些都需要花心思,做计划,花时间,费功夫,消耗能量。如果以主动积极的态度去做这些事情,都会很好地传达爱意。

 

有时候,用行动表达爱意,会给人特别实诚和温暖的感觉。

 

Jim’s primary love language was what I called “acts of service”. By acts of service, I mean doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. You seek to please her by serving her, to express your love for her by doing things for her.

 

Such actions as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes, vacuuming, cleaning a commode, getting hairs out of the sink, removing the white spots from the mirror, getting bugs off the windshield, taking out the garbage, cleaning the baby’s diaper, painting a bedroom, dusting the bookcase, keeping the car in operation condition, washing or vacuuming the car, cleaning the garage, mowing the grass, trimming the shrubs, raking the leaves, dusting the blinds, walking the dog, changing the cat’s litter box, and changing water in the goldfish bowl are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love.

 

 

 

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