let's talk about sex
Sex is something you enjoy, not something you "give". It is not a privilege, and it is not a tool for other narrow minded personal agenda.
Here is a funny paradox:
1,How can you know if a sex deprived man truly loves you or not? He might love you for the sex and he might also be truly confused because of the burning desire in his heart. Sex deprived men tend to be needy, insecure, inpatient, and anything but cool and elegant, and ladies often find them unattractive. Conclusion: it is best not to date a sex deprived man.
2, Most young ladies don't want to date an experienced and sex satisfied man who is sexually active with other ladies.
This paradox has been going on for a while, and it often leads to unrealistic desire of dating men who are as cool as the "pros" but as pure as sex deprived men.
I am not saying young ladies should just "give it up" and have sex with whoever. Rather, I suggest figure out why you don't want to enjoy sex first. Do you think sex is painful,shameful? Do you treat virginity as an asset? I hope your honest answer is not the latter, because if you treat your own body part merely as a mean, then you should have no difficulty, shame or guilt to treat others merely as means.
Couples can only be happy if both of them know what they truly want, and be honest about it. We don't know exactly what others think, so it is best to start from ourselves and pray that our partners are honest.
"What should I do if someone I have dated for a week wants sex?"
Well, you have figured out your reasons and examined your beliefs( and if you are truly smart, you will find sex is something to enjoy rather than something to bargain with). So next time when it happens, tell the guy what you think of sex and how you want it done.
Compare following cases:
1,A girl chooses not to enjoy it with the boyfriend that she loves; after 5 years of marathon, they get married and physically connected . The guy(I don't use "man" for a very good reason) then suddenly finds out that once his sex desire is met, he no longer has the passion for the girl because they two are not really great and compatible together.
2, A girl chooses not to "give" it to her boyfriend that she loves; after 1 years of marathon, the man concludes that the girl is insecure, over-controlling and abusive. He moves on and never looks back.
3,another girl chooses to enjoy it with her boyfriend. it turns out that the guy is only interested in sex, so she dumps him and learns a mate selection lesson. (or enjoys sex with him if he is really that good)
4, another girl get rejected by a man because of her lack of virginity. She moves on while laughing at him of being a social conditioned sheep and anything but a real man.
5, another girl chooses to enjoy it with her boyfriend. It turns out they two are very compatible and great, so they get married(minus the happily ever after part to stay on topic).
which girl do you want to be?
Always use condoms because you don't want to get some weird diseases.