我今年30岁，跟男朋友相好三年，我很爱他，可是最近我们彼此疏远起来。(转贴）

  Dear Madam,

      Many couples feel that after years together their relationship is not as passionate. You are not alone. Some couples may not feel as appreciated by their partner or may even feel neglected. More often than not, resentments starts to build and couples begin to criticize even the smallest oversights of their partner, which threatens their friendship.

    What leads people into this loss of friendship and romantic discord is a lack of intimacy. it is imperative that you and your boyfriend openly, honestly, and non-judgmentally communicate your emotional and sexual needs with each other. Try to seduce each other.

    Seducing a partner is work, and just like your work schedule, you must schedule at least 30 minutes each day to talk to each other about your day. Instead of coming home and immediately sifting through the mail, give your partner a hug, sit down with him and share the happy incidents and disappointemnts of your day.

    Keep in mind, sharing your experiences and then discussing your feelings about them will help you and your partner rebuild intimacy. Once regained, intimacy will help maintain the passion and commitment in your relationship.